Watch where you are going or you will trip on the dog

By Dwight Collins | Sep 10, 2015

Camden — Setting goals is important; without goals there is no direction. If you are taking a trip you plug a destination into the GPS and start off on the journey.

I have taken more trips than I can count and not once was I focused on my destination or goal the entire trip. After all, the point of going on a road trip is to take in the sights and enjoy the journey, not stress out about getting where you are trying to get.

I feel that more and more the people around me are focused on what they want (or think they want) and don't focus enough on what they are doing to get there. I'm not saying that you set a goal and forget about it; we all know there is no point to do so if there is no intent to move forward toward it. Much like the “I'm on the couch, the remote is over there and I need to change the channel” scenario...nothing is going to happen unless I put feet on floor and create movement either toward the remote or the television. In my experience, if I focus on the remote I will miss the dog laying on the floor, fall and smash something.

I set a goal and figure out the best route to take to get there. From there, I have a direction of travel and can get under way. I allow myself some wiggle room, so that if things don't go as planned, eventually I'll be able to get back on track. I guess I don't want to let opportunities that may lead to my destination faster, or even lead me in another direction all together.

There are all kinds of goals: weight loss, career, relationships and the list goes on. As much as we like to keep those goals separate, they usually end up a stew of “I hope that they serve a multipurpose.” In actuality, any goal that improves the self is like a wild card, it increases the odds of success anywhere, anytime.

When I was a teenager I wanted to be in law enforcement. My journey has led me to journalism and honestly I am much better suited for it. Goals, ideas, circumstances all change over the long-term. I have allowed them to happen, some good, some not so good. When I figured out where I really wanted to go in life, I knew I had plenty of life experience to get me there.

I try to stick to shorter-term goals that when all totaled, won't necessarily have me in the perfect job or relationship, however, it will put me in a position to be the best person I can be.

Anxiety comes from thinking of the future. Living in the moment, with one eye still on the prize, has helped me limit my anxiety to a level that I can once again refer to as “just being nervous” instead of having a full-blown attack.

Moving forward all the time can wear you out, it is OK to take a side street every once in awhile. Drive straight forward on Route 1 through Camden in July to get to Belfast — at about Reny's Plaza, I bet most people wished they had taken John Street.

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