The dying art of communication

By Dwight Collins | Mar 26, 2015

Recent experience tells me that the longer we as parents allow children — anybody's children — to engage in social media the greater the chance that future world leaders will not be textzilla's and cyber-bullies.

What I'm getting at is that the lack of face-to-face communication is a chink in the armor of not just any, but every relationship. If you can see, feel and hear emotion, assumptions are less likely to be made. I don't know how many times I have received a text or email and was instantly ready to go off the rails and unload with both barrels. I would rather a phone call or even better, come over and see me. I would like to believe that if it that important, the time can be made.

I understand that we live in a society where convenience is everything and as each generation travels through the maturation process, the never-ending search for ways to fit more things in to an already packed schedule makes it more of a necessity. It is not just about getting a clear message across, it has to do with so many other things that allow us as humans to operate within the boundaries of today's society.

Social skills, being able to verbally communicate emotion and thoughts without being rude or disrespectful. Going into a fast-food place and being able look the person in the eye and place an order has been replaced with an ordering app and grab and go.

There are some things I would rather do via email, some of them because it helps me organize and is much easier to get the word out to the masses, but trying to communicate to the individual and having those skills to understand and be understood are beginning to dull because of private messaging and texting.

I am as guilty as the next and I have implemented some changes, which to some may be uncomfortable — because change is.

If it is an emotional topic, I will speak face-to-face to who strikes the emotion, but not until I have calmed down. More people need to do that, I have seen a generation of teenagers that have some severe anger issues and most of the confrontations they engage in are driven by poor communication and rage. Rage that they are not being understood and heard and the other side upset for the same reasons.

Another thing that I have noticed is the increase of cyber “tough guys” (and girls) that continuously spew hate and discontent via social media. The ones I have seen and read made my blood boil and left me fighting the urge to give some verbal beatings myself.

I wonder what those people would do if they had to say to someone's face what they write on these sites and better yet, have to take the response. Everyone is 10-feet tall and bullet proof when the are sitting being a screen name.

In 30 years I can see a world where common sense is long dead and those with hair triggers have control of the triggers and are waging war because the leaders of "Idontcareastan" did not like their status or bashed them on Thunderdome. We won't have to worry about conventional warfare because the demographics will have shifted and anyone who is motivated enough to revolt will not be able to handle the face-to-face confrontation.

Regardless, get a hold of me the easy way or the hard way. Either way, it will be good to hear from you.

Comments (3)
Posted by: Ronald Horvath | Apr 03, 2015 06:45

Good one, Roger.  Louis CK nails it again.  Truly the comedic philosopher of our times.

Posted by: Roger Taylor | Apr 02, 2015 10:55

Great piece. Here's the comedian Louis CK on the same topic...

Posted by: Janice Campbell | Mar 27, 2015 11:31

Great article, Dwight.  This is a huge pet peeve of mine.  I tell my daughters ALL THE TIME that texting is emotionless.  You never know what the other person has going on at the moment they receive it, and that can effect how they read it. There is no tone in texting....what we intend may not be what is assumed.  Pick up the phone...or better yet...see the person face-to-face...especially when it is something important. 

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