Robert H. Pfeiffer

Dec 02, 2019
Rob Pfeiffer

Solon — Robert H. Pfeiffer died peacefully at his home in Solon Friday, Nov. 29, 2019 at 74 surrounded by his loving family. His life was packed full of incredible peak experiences all of which involved relationships with other people. He was fond of saying that he never had a job—just a series of opportunities to spend special time with a variety of people and to try to work out some of the issues which might block someone from success. He would have enjoyed doing that anyway but then a check would appear. How wonderful!

Rob’s first work was as a Marine officer in Vietnam. He saw his mission as being able to send all his comrades home safely. One of “his” Marines was killed by friendly fire. His experience was so disappointing that he became a lifelong member of Veterans for Peace hoping to leave the world a more peaceful place than when he entered in 1945.

The rest of his life was spent trying to be a good father, husband, coach, counselor, and teacher in various settings on the East Coast. The relationships formed taking on challenges and using sports in season as a vessel to capture values absolutely delighted Rob. This past summer, 55 former Middlebury College lacrosse players gathered in Vail Colorado to play again with Rob as their coach. It was a very special time.

He leaves behind the love of his life, Julianna, with whom he shared houses in Solon and Camden. They created Pfeiffer Counseling and Consulting in Camden and enjoyed years of working together. His daughters, Sarah and Kate, who taught him more than any graduate course in psychology as he watched them emerge as strong, smart, beautiful women who are ready, willing and able to take on any challenge at any time and to do so with compassion and love. Their partners, Mitch and Martin, are wonderful additions to the Pfeiffer family. Mitch and Sarah have produced Maisie, who has been the light of Rob’s eye. Loving brother Pete has been most supportive as Rob’s health has declined.

If interested in contributing in Rob’s name, the Team Kohn Scholarship or the Bangor Symphony Orchestra were two of his favorite causes. Gifts to the former may be directed to Gift Administration, Middlebury College, 700 Exchange Street, Middlebury, VT 05753 or at go.Middlebury.edu/give or to the latter at P.O. Box 1441, Bangor, ME 04402-1441 or at bangorsymphony.org/donate.

There are plans moving towards a memorial service being held July, 2020 at a place to be determined.

Comments (2)
Posted by: Christine M Starrett | Dec 05, 2019 10:40

This is such sad news! Julianna and Rob’s family are in my thoughts and prayers. A remarkable man who I met in high school as my school counselor, his kindness and counseling did not end once you met him. He was always available with sound advise or just an ear to listen. Rob will be missed by many whose lives he touched in one way or another with his kindness, his positive and caring manner.



Posted by: Jane Karker | Dec 05, 2019 08:29

Peter I am so sorry for the loss of your dear brother.



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