Love and so it is

By Ryan Howes | Nov 09, 2017

Remember Jerry from my first article titled: Live love and leap into health? Jerry wanted to change his health, so he hired me as his Wellness Guide. In three months, Jerry lost 30 pounds and lowered his blood pressure by eating nutritious, whole food, and regular exercise. Inflammation disappeared as a result of clean eating, and his desire to run again became his new norm.

Ultimately, Jerry could not sustain that lifestyle. As you may recall, Jerry shared with me some deep suffering from childhood trauma. That pain followed him around everywhere: home, work, and vacations. Jerry was unable to powerfully deal with the stressors in his life. He eventually turned back to his old lifestyle, which contained regular trips to the convenience store. He satisfied his craving for love through emotional eating of candy bars and soda. He regained the weight, his blood pressure rose, and he no longer runs.

This harsh reality is common for millions of Americans. Most of us do not powerfully deal with the stressors in our lives because we do not develop a listening to what our body’s need and want. When we are dealing with past hurts, we experience feelings of worthlessness, doubt, shame and guilt. Other people cannot change those feelings. Yet, in our desire for love, we tend to hide from past constraints. No matter how good we become at hiding them, they tend to follow us everywhere we go.

Let me help you powerfully deal with stress and develop a listening to your body’s wants and needs, so that love, Self-Love, can prevail. But first, lets define four important concepts—

• Bio-individuality: each person has unique needs that differs from others

• Crowding-out: slowly substituting unhealthy behaviors for healthy ones

• Secondary food: everything we eat and drink

• Primary food: everything that nourishes us that does not go on a plate

Which concept do you think I’m referring to when talking about Self-Love? If you said primary food, then you are correct, however each concept does play a role. Jerry was able to eat secondary food and exercise according to his bio-individuality. He did this by slowing crowding-out candy bars, pastries, soda, fast food and lethargy for fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy proteins and fats. He enjoyed moving his body as a result of the clean fuel-filled diet. But his lack of healthy primary food, particularly Self-Love, was something he would not address for fear of change. He could LIVE, but he could not LEAP to LOVE.

Imagine children playing outside with friends. At dinnertime their mother calls to them, “Time to come in and eat!” “No mommy, I’m not hungry yet,” they respond. At the table, the mother dutifully ensures that the children leave no morsel behind. The children reluctantly force down the minimum requirement, eager to get back outside and play. At the end of the day they return, exhausted and satisfied. They quickly fall asleep without thinking about food at all. Can you remember being deeply in love? Everything is light and warm, colors are vivid, and life is full of joy. You’re high on your lover’s presence, sustained and exhilarated by the blissful connection. You float on air, and food becomes secondary. Think back to a time when you were involved in an exciting work project. You believed in what you were doing whole-heartedly and felt content and stimulated. Time stopped, and the outside world was muted – food was an afterthought. Now recall a time you were depressed or experiencing low self-esteem – you were starving for primary food. No matter how much you ate, you never felt satisfied. The need for love, power, or mere acknowledgement drove the desire for excess food.

Primary food is our truest form of nourishment. The main primary foods are: career, relationships, physical activity and spirituality. Here is a mantra for love and primary food by Louise L. Hay:

Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite well of love. I now allow this love to flow to the surface—It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and it radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give—the supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good. It is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself; therefore, I take care of my body. I lovingly feed it nourishing foods and beverages. I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself; therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in. I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so that all who enter, myself included, will feel this love and by nourished by it. I love myself; therefore, I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing, one that uses my creative talents and abilities, working with and for people whom I love and who love me, and earning a good income. I love myself; therefore, I behave and think in a loving way to all people—for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied. I only attract loving people in my world, for they are a mirror of what I am. I love myself; therefore, I forgive and totally release the past and all experiences and I am free. I love myself; therefore, I live totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright and joyous and secure—for I am a beloved child of the Universe, and the Universe lovingly takes care of me now and forever more. And so it is.

Incorporate Louise’s words into your life and I will share my primary food strategies next week.

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