Do the work to reap the reward

By Dwight Collins | Dec 19, 2014

Camden — I would rather fail a million times than ever have to swallow the bitter pill of regret. Regret is cancer of the soul and once it is there you can never really get rid of it. It doesn't matter if it's something you didn't follow through on or missed opportunities; we have all had them.

I share my stories in hopes that everyone that reads them takes something away from it. I have recently experienced a rash of very sad situations, which I had to report on, and it has caused an inner struggle that has developed into situations that saw me fail a lot and still be left with regret.

Things left unsaid is always a recipe for regret. We are never promised tomorrow and if you have something to say to someone — say it. I wish I could have told the woman I love how I really felt before I hurt her too badly for her to return. She is an amazing woman and I love her and her children like they were my own. Regret is hard to swallow.

Fear can cause regret. The fear of commitment or being hurt. Being told after years of marriage that your husband or wife never really loved you to begin with all creates barriers that are hard to break down. Fear is crippling — it causes you to take no action when action is needed.

Regret is a negative energy, but there is away to help make that pill a bit easier to swallow. Take stock that everything happens for a reason and that opportunity was not for you. I know it is hard to hear, it was for me, but if it isn't truly meant to be it won't.

Letting go of things you have no control over also helps with regret, you can't control what others do and how they react to situations. If you have done the work and given an effort then you should have no regret. I also feel that if you don't give your best effort and have regret, learning from the mistake and being OK with that takes away some of the edge.

It doesn't come easy and hardly anybody masters it completely, but self healing and allowing yourself to be human and make mistakes is the only sure fire way to stave off the bad mojo and be able to choose happiness over regret.

I regret that I didn't begin to take care of me first along time ago and the lessons I have learned stick with me because they all have one common bond — it burns like touching a hot iron, so you don't touch the hot iron again.

We live, we learn and we love, sometimes too much. Again, life is too short and every moment we have on earth is precious, so regardless of what their response is, make sure you tell the people you love how much they mean to you.

Regret, action never taken...

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Comments (3)
Posted by: Laurel E Taylor | Dec 23, 2014 12:07

Beautiful! -Brooke Borden

Posted by: Ragna Weaver | Dec 21, 2014 08:44

Wow! Thanks for sharing. Sometimes we don't learn things in life we should. Then someone like yourself comes along, & it clicks & you have taught others & made their journey in life a little easier. Just knowing we have control over our lives to some extent. Thank you again.

Posted by: Bill Packard | Dec 20, 2014 21:33

Yeah.  What Dwight said.


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