Miami Herald columnist Leonard Pitts wrote about remarkable 13-year-old Adeola “Abraham” Olagbegi, whose Make-A-Wish request was not a trip to Disney, a meet and greet with Lebron James, or for that matter, anything for himself.

Instead, he wanted to feed hungry people in his hometown of Jackson, Mississippi. “Abraham’s Table” will serve meals once a month for the next year courtesy of Make-A-Wish.

Abraham has a rare life-threatening blood disorder (aplastic anemia) yet understands one day of good living isn’t worth people going hungry. Pitts wants us to think bigger than a “seasonal moment of generosity” ― quote attributed to Celine-Marie Pascale and her book “Living on the Edge,” where she writes about myths of what it means to be poor in America, the most damaging being poverty is a choice anyone can rise above, provided they work hard enough.

Pascale debunks that, telling us that often nobody “works harder than the poor.” “Perhaps as a kid, you played musical chairs where you had 10 kids and nine chairs. The slowest or least able was the one left out. From the beginning the game is rigged so that there’s not enough for everyone.”

Think about it; while many eat more than they need, others are left out because the system depends on people not having enough, producing poverty in many to create wealth for the few, a sobering Thanksgiving thought.

Pitts quotes Martin Luther King about the underlying issue ― (poverty) “is more than flinging a coin to a beggar; it is understanding that an edifice that produces beggars must be restructured.”


“Love truth, but pardon error” is attributed to philosopher Voltaire. Written 400 years ago, it resonates because, though we are a divided nation, we can change the paradigm this Thanksgiving if we can come together with a common bond called gratefulness.

I am grateful for both what unites us and what separates us, best achieved with tolerance and staying in non-judgment.

On Facebook, following several anti-Biden “friends” frustrates, but invites curiosity.

A comment from a non-stamp licker like me usually stirs the pot, no matter how diplomatic or factual. It often starts with someone telling me how much I hate Trump and how he still gets “free rent” in my brain. I comment on memes I deem dangerous that perpetuate false narratives like “the election was rigged or stolen” ―  “it was not” is the comment back, adding “70-plus lawsuits dismissed, three times the Supreme Court refused to hear the case because no credible evidence of widespread fraud that would change the outcome, as well as multiple audits haven’t changed anything significantly.” When comments come back with no factual underpinning, my response usually is to the tune that believing the “pillow man” over facts is equivalent to believing in the tooth fairy.

Facts don’t seem to matter to most Biden haters (they accuse me of hating as they put up sophomoric memes full of name calling, bullying, meanspirited hate mongering), or Trump lovers, when you share facts not supporting their narrative.

My usual response: “I don’t hate Trump, I hate what he stands for, like his belief he is smarter than the generals and the doctors (he’s not). I hate the narcissism deep in his core ― narcissists have no empathy, and it’s incurable.”

The “aha” moment came when pondering why Trump supporters are so dug in. In 2016, an election Trump won, the left exploded with accusations Trump committed treasonous conspiracy with Russia and Putin; a notion supported by mainstream medias’ incessant coverage, creating the narrative for Trump that the media was the enemy, also feeding Trump’s “fake news” mantra ― the media walked right into that web created by their own net.

Think about a sports analogy; your team (let’s say the Patriots) comes from behind in one of the most riveting sports moments in NFL history, and the win is greeted with the media talking about how the Patriots cheated, presenting no hard proof (deflate gate, which like Trump’s collusion, was never proven). Now, change this from Patriots to Red Sox, before they won championships. Consider their stunning comeback against the Yankees in 2004. Red Sox fans waited 86 years and one can imagine the fan anger if The New York Times wrote the World Series was tainted in 2004, with no hard proof, and before the champagne bottles were even picked off the floor.

Denying Trump legitimacy in 2016 set the stage for the anger that continues and allows Trump relevancy with the message he is the most maligned president ever ― perception being reality.

Hypocrisy cuts both ways ― until the pendulum swings too far left, and too far right, will it settle in the middle – hate will then lose power.

It’s people that matter. I am grateful to have them in my life, no matter their politics, as long as they value facts and have a tolerant nature.


“I would not enter on my list of friends, / (Though graced and polish’d manners and fine sense, / Yet wanting sensibility) the man / Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm.” ― William Cowper, Poet (1731-1800)